Fear, fear, fear….what is fear? We hear about it all of the time, don’t we? It plays a huge part in our world, our nation, and in how we live. Fear, in a multitude of varieties, is directed at us daily in our newspapers, the discussions we share with our family and friends, in movies and magazines, and on the evening news. For many people fear is like a 400 lb. gorilla in the room. For others, fear rests quietly on a set of weakened shoulders.
Whatever fear is, it keeps a lot of people frozen in their tracks, from being able to move forward and enjoy life as it is meant to be enjoyed. It makes us begin to question ourselves and operate from our mind instead of our heart and intuition. But you know what? There is absolutely nothing tangible about fear. You can’t go down to the store and pick up a 6 pack of fear. You can’t buy or sell fear on eBay. You know why? Because FEAR IS AN ILLUSION! We create fear in our minds. It is as simple as that. Although fear is an illusion, it is a powerful force that, if we allow it to, can hold us back and keep us from moving forward. That is the key point to remember, if we ALLOW it to. According to Michael Kendall in his wonderful book “A Truthful Opportunity”, “when we allow our fear to step in, to rule our emotions, it begins to dictate our choices. When we perceive the world through fear, fear creates illusion of control. Our choices are being manipulated by the perception of something that does not exist. When we surrender our free will to the illusion that fear has created, we no longer move through the world with intention.”
What to do? Begin to consciously recognize your feelings of fear. The next time fear starts creeping into your consciousness please try to remember it is an illusion. It is our mind, trying to act as a defense mechanism for an ego worried about failing. We have been trained all of our lives, to live through our mind and ego and not through our intuition and heart. When you start to sense fear creeping in (failure, unsureness, how will I do this, what will people think of that) please remember that the fear is not real. Just keep moving forward and focus on the task at hand. It doesn’t matter if it is a baby step, just keep moving forward. This will help settle your mind and keep you focused on your goal, not your perceived fear. And you know what else? The more you keep moving forward, the more your confidence will continue to grow as you begin to get closer and closer to what you want to accomplish. How can you beat that!